You know the looks you get from the other parents. The judgmental glares, stares, and rolling of the eyes from the “know-it-all parents” whose kids are perfect. Well, guess what? There is no such thing as a perfect parent or child. If you suffer from endless guilt, keep reading to learn about the five biggest myths surrounding good parenting.
The Top Five Misnomers on Good Parenting
Myth 1: You Must Give in to Tantrums
When your child is having a temper tantrum, some parents think it’s best to give them what they want to avoid embarrassment. Wrong. This is the perfect time to demonstrate that inappropriate behavior is never a way to get what they want, especially in public. If need be, leave the shopping cart behind, calmly carry or take your child out the door and get in your car. Whether you decide to go home or try again from there is up to you.
Myth 2: Children Shouldn’t Do Chores
Children in today’s world have enough to deal with, so many parents think giving them chores would be too overwhelming. Sorry, but that’s not true. Children need to learn responsibilities to understand how a family works together to create a comfortable home. Yes, children do have a lot on their plates nowadays. But you can decide what outside activities might need to sit on the back burner for now. Does your child need all those sports activities, or can they benefit from having one or two activities and being a productive family member, as well?
Myth 3: Your Child’s Failures are Yours
If your child doesn’t excel, do you feel like a failure as a parent? Why put that kind of pressure on your child and expect them to meet those high standards? Everyone makes mistakes or falls short of a goal sometimes. Children learn from their mistakes, too. So, keep in mind who your child is and what their strengths are, not what you want them to be. And be proud of any accomplishments no matter how big or small.
Myth 4: Your Child Doesn’t Always Have to Obey Adults
A parent may tell their child they can refuse to do what their teacher says if they don’t want to. Aside from safety concerns like stranger danger or inappropriate touching, this is a bad idea. What this teaches your child is not to respect authority or other human beings. So tell your child people sometimes have to do things they don’t want to do. But sometimes they find out that it wasn’t so bad after all.
Myth 5: You Alone in This One
Do you often feel like the only parent who is going through this? But that’s not true since many parents are just like you. They’re looking for other parents to join forces with them. Everyone needs support. How can you be a support to another parent? Be a friend and help each other as you go through similar parenting struggles.
Good parenting is not an easy job and parenting myths make it even harder. So, know that you’re doing the best you can with what you have and seek others for help. Then, one day when you look back on this season of your life, you’ll know you did a great job.